MY SPICY LIFE

come taste the spice in my life

Archive for the category “Friends”

Expectations

There is a lot to say about expectations. For years…all of my adult life and before…I have expected something special on special occasions. The Hallmark Holiday, as it is sometimes called, has been no different. I’ve always said I didn’t expect anything special but that was always a lie. I like to receive tokens of love – something special – I am a woman! But for me it didn’t have to be big. It could be dinner, flowers, candy, a card, most years even just the acknowledgement that it was a so-called holiday was enough.

This year was different…

I didn’t fight with anyone…

I didn’t have to get pretty for dinner only to deal with crowds…

I didn’t have to cook dinner only to have it over in 30 minutes…or less…only to watch T.V. the rest of the night (boring by the way)…

I didn’t have to go to bed angry, disappointed, or regretful because something I expected to happen didn’t (or worse – something I didn’t want to happen did)…

This year, I didn’t expect anything – from anyone – why would I? I am single for the first time ever on February 14th and okay with it. Instead I spent the evening with one of my best friends working on my house, getting electrocuted, enjoying a few good laughs and loving life. Love in the form of friendship and nothing less. Yes, for the first time ever I discovered how to spend your Valentine’s day…with no expectations…enjoying the evening with someone special. There was no one trying to make it a special night, it just was an evening of nothing but non-expectations.  I think it was possibly the best Valentine’s I’ve ever had.

The Alternate you

A friend of mine started an experiment this past week. She’s not a big drinker, a social drinker yes, but not a big drinker. This past weekend she had a bad taste put in her mouth after what wasn’t a lot to drink. It took a day a half to recover from a few drinks. Needless to say she didn’t like the recover time for that hangover. Not sure what to do about it she started an experiment…no alcohol for a year. For some this is really not a challenge at all, silly in fact, but for others it is a bit more of a challenge. I think it’s also going to be a realization for her as to how much she really does drink – and interesting year is in store. If you’d like to follow along she started a blog – http://ayobexperiment.blogspot.com. Check it out and give her your support.

Myself – I spent 4 years trying to have a baby…one of the things I did while trying to achieve this goal was not consume alcohol. This was based on the belief that it would inhibit my ability to conceive. It was easy most of the time, but it there were times when it was difficult…like when dealing with a non-sober husband. I wasn’t  a social drinker and I didn’t have a favorite drink either which made it easier. The task might be harder now becoming a social drinker in the last year and finding my favorite drink…but I don’t think so.

Post Navigation